Gravitational Law of Relationship

It was on the year 1600’s when Newton formulated the universal law of Gravitational Attraction. In his theory, he states that every massive particle in the universe attracts every other massive particle with a force which is directly proportional to the product of their masses and inversely proportional to the square of the distance between them. In other words, the attraction of the two different masses can be affected by their masses and the distance that separates them. Basically this law can be simplified by this formula:

However, who would have thought that his formula of attraction can also be used in other field aside from physics and the like matters. In the study of relationship, this formula of Newton can be of great help, particularly dealing with long-distance relationships. Long-distance relationships as being defined as an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by considerable distance. So let’s define this equation in terms of relationship so that it would be easier for us to understand the concept.

First, the F in the equation of Newton represents the Force. In terms of relationship this Force refers to Love. Love as we define it was a feeling or force of strong attachment induced by that which delights or commands admiration. Second the G represents the gravitational constant; it refers to the unchangeable factors of the relationship which includes personality, culture and many more. The two m in the equation represents the two individuals involved in the relationship. And lastly the r refers to the distance that separates them.

So basically the equation shows that individuals who loved each other are being challenged by the distance that separates them. In other word, it’s the distance that determines their relationship. Take this situation for an example:

A guy has a girlfriend who is hundreds of miles away from him. Though they promise to maintain communication, trust, and sincerity to one another just to hold the relationship together still both of them where so vulnerable to changes. It is either the guy or the girl or both of them may look for someone who could give them the love they want when they where together. In cases like this, individuals may divert their feelings to someone who is closer to him or her. And if this third party responds to the call of love, shifting of the gravitational attraction will favor the illegitimate one since their distance of attraction was closer compared to the original. And it is a sad reality.

 However, although cases like this were inevitable. The gravitational law of attraction gives us very good insights especially in building relationships. First, that we should be open to possibilities. No matter how hard we keep things in our hand, time will come that the one we treasured most must be freed. And we should be at least prepared for it. Second, that loving someone was of a great challenge. Time in relationship is not just gold but rather it is diamond. Every minute in a relationship counts and we should be prepared on how to make this every minute memorable. And lastly, that maintaining relationship to last forever both must overcome the challenge of distance. Distance is not the end of the world of relationship (Stephen Blake). Distance cannot and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment and LOVE. And the prize for surpassing this quest would be eternal.

Although the premise of the equation was real yet let’s make use this equation in strengthening our relationship. Now we know of the possibilities, then we should make actions that this possibilities may not occur.

Unrequited Dairy

April 27, 2009

Things are now starting to be weird; life of a graduate student was really different. A lot of pressures are pushing me hard. I don’t know where to go. I was stocked in this very unlikely moment of my life. Yet behind all this sad moments in me, I still have the chance to smile and cherish each day knowing that my friends, family and you will always be with me no matter what will happen. You have been so special to me and I couldn’t even imagine how I adore you so much. It’s been like Cupid was playing with my innocent heart. I never thought that the girl whom I like so much during my biology 103 lecture class would be the girl who would bring changes in me. Though I know during those days I couldn’t even have the chance to be your friend.

                However, still fate has its own way of giving you to me. Bringing you closer to me would be a satisfaction for my soul and for my stupid heart. Actually, I thought this feeling will be lost forever in vain. A lot of diversions have been done yet the more it hurts me and the more my feelings for you grows bigger and bigger.

                From the moment I reached third year collage, we became closed friends and eating partners though I wasn’t expecting that we could reach that far. You became much closed to me and things in me got changed and to tell you frankly, next to God and my family you became 3^rd in my priorities. You welcome me and accept me for who I am. In times of lonely and sad moments in my life you show me hope, you brought changes and you answer some of my prayers. You’ve been a great gift to me by God.

                Later, we tend to know each other but this time much deeper understanding of who we are. I thought it would be better in my case for us to remain like this (friends), but then thru circumstances I realized that the more I was driven closed to you the more would it be hard for me to express how I really feel towards you. The moment you texted me and every time you forwarded me with some of your funny and serious messages, I always tend to feel a spark in my heart of which I couldn’t explain. It was like a mere feeling of mixed emotions which sometimes causes me to have sleepless nights and day dreaming.

                I have been waiting in vain for a moment to tell you everything yet circumstances have different plans for us. JS prom could be the perfect and exact time for me but fear and lack of encouragement overrides my intentions and purpose. At that night you definitely look very gorgeous with a stunning beauty. How I wished then to have you for a dance that night.

                Time passes by, and our very tiring and thesis life has come that we even sometimes forget to have dinner dates again at Chowking, Jolibee or Macki’s. Till graduation was so near and we sometimes have no time for ourselves. However, God gives me the greatest graduation gift I have when He allow me to have you a small, very small yet very memorable day and this time with our parents in Timoga.

                And now college life has been over, we are now heading to our separate ways, still, my unrequited love was the same… it will always wait in vain. But this time I was far from you. I wouldn’t have the chance to see you again. I won’t see again the face that has been blessed by God with innocence and love. My mind told me to move on yet my heart wants me to stay. Dreaming of you every night was just an understatement of how I really miss you so much. It caused me so much pain and depression.

                Days are coming and leaving so fast, yet still no news from you. Thoughts are coming to me that somehow you’re busy with your priorities in life and I am just at the bottom of your list. And having me would just be a hindrance to your success. I always thought of what if I was once one of your boyfriends; whom you love and who experienced being loved by you. Sometimes I got jealous to think that I don’t have the courage and confidence to tell you everything like what they did. Or I was just weighing the scale and I am just afraid to loose you as my true and best friend or maybe for sure I was just afraid and not ready to accept rejections. Sometimes I thought I was once your ultimate crush; with all those obsessions and dedications from you.  Well lucky for them, they got you, the most perfect girl whom I have been dreaming to have.  Frankly speaking, I don’t want to be your stalker yet my actions would define me as one. I always kept a picture of you in my room and totally that was really a sign of obsession.

                However, just don’t be worried about it. I don’t want you to answer my feelings in return. All I want was just the friendship we try to build for almost three years (although it sounds stupid for me not to wish to have you but just the friendship. Hahahaha). I don’t want you to feel awkward about me after knowing all these stupid things I have done. I just simply can’t handle it when you will be away from me. I don’t want to loose that spark in my heart that once hit me every time you’re near with me. I don’t want to forget everything about you. The adventures we are into. The experiences we shared together. I know I am not the person whom you wish for, the person who will answer your dreams.  But all I asked is for you to understand me. I don’t know if this feeling was called love for I haven’t been in love before. But one thing is for sure, it has something to do with you and for you alone.